We all have those definite expectations on how a relationship should be. Relationships are like our every day, where we anticipate having a better one, hopeful that it might bring us the goodness we once dream to have. Therefore, like life, relationships often fail us and break us to the extent of feeling ill and being hopeless. Now, how can we build a healthy love life with our spouse?
Maintain mutual respect inside and outside the relationship.
What men want in a relationship is respect. They actually define love in the form of respect. Men are naturally egoistic that if you do not believe the things he sees integral to what he is as a person, like his career; it may be hard for him to love you and respect you back. Both men and women should know how each of them defines respect. Act on it to maintain mutual courtesy, it is essential to a healthy love life.
Listen, know, and understand your partner.
Accept the fact that, often than not we attract people who are of different upbringing and belief from us. They say we need to choose who we are going to commit with very carefully. But sometimes, most of the times actually, we can’t keep ourselves from loving someone we never intend to love. We can never teach our heart who to love. All we have to do is not to be afraid to speak up for ourselves and at the same time to listen with our hearts. This is for us to know and weigh things more adequately. Eventually, we can understand where each of us is coming from and refrain from conflicts.
A relationship is a team work.
Learn to manage your differences. View your relationship as a team working for a goal. Know that in a team, the differences of each member are their key to attaining their success. Learn how to handle the negativities that are brought about by these differences. Face them and discuss it in a respectable and accepting manner. Not mending it or avoiding it is not good in building a healthy relationship.
Enrich your relationship every now and then.
Relationships should not always be you and me alone. But rather it is you, me and anything else. Enrich your relationship with new things outside your circle. There are many other exciting things than admiring your spouse all day. Try new adventures together. Give and share. Let the other person grow and build himself. However, always remember that at the end of the day, you both have each other to go home to, and that matters most.
Aside from love, relationships is a lot more things. It is not absolute. You will encounter bad times as much as the good times throughout. What matters greatly is your attitude towards these intricate details of life and relationships. Cooperate and always find the strength to make things better. Spontaneity isn’t really a bad thing in a relationship. Do not forget about yourself. Rather, build it and nurture it because simply, you cannot give what you don’t have.