There is a saying that the heart grows fonder with distance. If so then why do so many long distance relationships fail? Many long-distance relationships for instance a couple who is together throughout high school then goes away to a different colleges, maintaining that relationship is hard with all of the sexually charged energy surrounding both partners. It is almost like society is against a faithful relationship that stands against all odds. However if you truly love someone, distance alone shouldn’t keep you apart. Is it possible to keep the relationship going while being miles apart?
A big factor is the distance and how often you see each other
When you say a relationship is long distance it could mean anywhere from a two hour drive to across the world. That is a big difference in the distance. However the feeling is the same, being away from the person that you want to spend your life with. If someone lives across the world, the bond would have to be pretty strong in order to survive. These are some good ground rules for how much time you can spend the other logical in general . If it is only two hours away then seeing each other every other weekend should be able to sustain the relationship for a while. If it is in between like a plane trip of a few hours, then for this relationship to thrive, each partner should make a commitment to flying out to see each other once every two months for the weekend. Then you would see each other once a month without it being too much strain on your bank account.
How you communicate matters
There is a lot of ways to communicate in this day and age. However some of the more old-fashioned ways of communicating can be the most effective in showing someone that you care. Sending cards in the mail, writing letters, sending gifts are all physical things that the other person can touch that let them know that you are thinking of them. It shows actual effort that you went out and spent time picking out something for the other person. Writing a letter also shows the same amount of effort. You can also take advantage of some of the new forms of communication as well. Using Skype or Facebook messenger allows you to see each other and get to hang out virtually. That face-to-face interaction allows for eye contact which is extremely important. Sending texts throughout the day also let the other person know you were thinking about them. It is more about the combination of efforts that you put into the relationship. You can also play an online game together and be in the same team or alliance. This gives you something to talk about and have in common. Playing a video game together is surprisingly a strong bonding experience. That is if it is the type a game where there is a type of team atmosphere to it. If you are not a gamer then you could try something a little less challenging like a community bingo room or something of that nature. You can also check out this website for ideas 100’s of things for couples to do.
Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t
If you have absolutely tried everything to connect with the other person and it doesn’t work out, then it probably wouldn’t have if you live next-door to each other anyway. True lasting love has all sorts of trials and tribulations in order to pass to be together. It takes a strong couple to survive in any relationship whether there is distance or not. If you tried, then you succeeded in the fact that you can handle the distance, it was the other person who could not.